One thing everyone dreams about is success. But before you are able to achieve that success you need to clearly define what success to you means and identify the ways to achieve it. Everyone has different meanings for success. For some people, success is having most friends, or for some others it is throwing the biggest party of the year. Success is also considered to be measured in financial terms, by professional promotions, having good family, friends and children. Most of these definitions of success are somewhat accurate but you need to realize success is directly related to how much effort you put forth in becoming successful.

There is no point in putting forth the effort to succeed if you are not true to yourself. Most people try to take the shortcut to success by acting like someone they are not. Everyone does that at one point in time, but most of us do not realize when to cut the act. Some people experience short term benefits of putting on an act of someone they really aren’t, which forces them to continue with the act. People want to be accepted in all aspects of their lives, but at times some people just aren’t confident enough in their personal abilities, thus they try to look for different alternatives. The number one alternative that people love to opt for is to simply become someone they are not.

Acting and behaving differently from the norm, some people forget what they are doing. They get so involved in their role that they start living the alternative lives. But instead of destroying yourself as a human being it is important that you at take the time out to learn about all that you are missing by acting differently. Most of these types of people know that what they are doing is just an act and they do not really mean it. But sooner or later this behavior of being everyone’s puppet will come back to haunt you for a very long time.

Success should be achieved by acting as original you. You will truly enjoy being the real you, without the constant need of wanting to please people in a way they are comfortable and not you. It is a great thing that you want to help out your colleagues and friends, but there is a way to do it. Instead of behaving how they want you to behave, take the initiative and bring forth the original you. Not only will people respect you more they will also be less likely to order you around. But this doesn’t mean that you stop being observant in office and around your friends. It is a great thing that you are extremely caring and helpful, but you have to do it in right manner.

As hard as you worked on making yourself something that you are not, you will have to ask yourself whether you have really benefited from taking all the orders and being treated like second fiddle. In reality though, you probably end up feeling worse than before. Therefore, it is essential that you become completely comfortable with the original version of yourself.